Achalugo Had Everything But Still Made the Wrong Choices

Achalugo was a woman who had it all. She had a flourishing career with a monthly salary of ₦750,000 and a highly profitable perfume business that brought in millions each month. Ambitious, disciplined, and hardworking, she appeared to be living the dream. But despite her success, Achalugo consistently found herself making poor decisions in relationships.

Her intelligence wasn’t the problem. In fact, she was incredibly smart, excelling in her career and business ventures. However, academic and professional brilliance doesn’t necessarily translate to wisdom in personal life and relationship choices.

For years, Achalugo found herself involved with men who were far beneath her potential. These relationships drained her emotionally, mentally, and financially. On the surface, it seemed like she had everything figured out, but when it came to making healthy choices in her personal life, she struggled. Why? 

Because trauma doesn’t care about your bank balance.

Because unresolved pain will always show up in your decisions.

Because without emotional intelligence, even the brightest women can be taken advantage of.

Why Do Smart Women Make Poor Choices?

Achalugo’s struggles weren’t due to a lack of understanding; she was making these choices because of deep-rooted emotional wounds. Like many women, she had been taught to prioritize love over wisdom, to seek validation through being chosen instead of making empowered choices herself, and to overlook red flags because “no one is perfect.”

Her lack of strong decision-making abilities made her vulnerable. She knew how to grow her wealth, but not how to grow her self-worth. She built her career but neglected to set boundaries in her personal life. She mastered the art of business but didn’t know how to navigate relationships with the same level of strategy.

That was until she met Odogwu—a man who appreciated her worth, valued her for who she was, and shared her vision for the future. Even then, Achalugo struggled to embrace this healthy dynamic, sabotaging herself in the process.

The Importance of Raising Girls with Wisdom

My book, “Raising the Girl with Sense”, is more than just a guide—it's essential for every parent who wants to raise a woman who is wise, discerning, and confident in her self-worth. 

It teaches the following key lessons:

✔ Having financial independence is empowering, but knowing your value is far more important.  

✔ Success without self-awareness is incomplete.  

✔ Your wealth can protect you, but your mind and self-awareness are your true power.  

Many women, like Achalugo, focus on building their financial portfolios but neglect developing their decision-making skills. They make smart investments in stocks but fail to invest in self-awareness. They look great, attract attention, and have everything society tells them they should desire—but attracting attention is not the same as attracting intentionality.

A girl raised with wisdom understands:

• Her value is defined not by the love she receives, but by the respect she has for herself.  

• Her future is shaped more by her choices than by her circumstances.  

• A partner enhances her life, but cannot complete or save her.

If you are a young woman like Achalugo, this book is for you too.

As you search for your own “Odogwu,” make sure you’re an Achalugo who embodies both wealth and wisdom. Money can buy you luxury, but only wisdom can protect you from the wrong choices.

Be intentional.