Before You Marry, Be Sure You're Ready

Let’s be honest. Marriage isn’t just about love, vibes, or checking boxes on a life to-do list. It’s a serious responsibility. And if you’re not ready—especially financially—it could mess you up more than you realize.

Can You Feed Yourself… and Two Others?

Before you even start thinking about marriage, ask yourself one simple question: can I feed myself and at least two other people? That’s the barest minimum. If feeding yourself is already a struggle, marriage should not even be on the table yet.

You don’t have to get married because society expects it. In fact, not everyone will get married, and that’s okay. Starting a family when you’re not stable financially will only bring frustration, stress, and silent suffering. And sadly, no one will understand or care when things go south.

Be Careful Who You Marry

Now let’s say you’re finally ready to settle down. You’ve found someone, you’re in love, and you’re thinking about forever. Before you propose, take a moment and look deeper.

Please, do not marry a woman who depends on you for everything. If she can’t buy airtime without calling you, if she can’t pay her own transport fare to come see you, if she has no basic financial independence—that’s a red flag.

It’s not really about how much money she has. It’s about the fact that she has something. That she’s not a total liability. Life is unpredictable, and when the storms hit, it’s the two of you against the world. Will she be able to stand with you? Or will she fall apart and leave everything on your shoulders?

Life Can Hit You Hard—Will She Have Your Back? 

Here’s the bitter truth: as a man, if anything happens to you—sickness, job loss, or even death—people will not remember how you held the home down for years. They won’t remember how you paid school fees, rent, or medical bills. All they’ll see is what went wrong.

And if your wife isn’t the kind of woman who can step in and carry the load temporarily, you’ll be blamed for everything.

Now imagine a scenario where your wife has savings, or a side hustle, or just enough wisdom to step up when things go bad. People won’t even notice you hit a rough patch. That’s what a strong partnership looks like.

Why You Need a Resourceful Woman

You’re not asking her to split bills or become the main provider. No. But there’s peace of mind in knowing that if something happens, she won’t be stuck or helpless.

Let me paint a picture: you've been paying the electricity bill from January to June. You travel in July. While you’re away, NEPA strikes. A resourceful woman will quietly sort it out and maybe even mention it casually later. But if she sends you a receipt and immediately asks for a refund, that attitude? That's a red flag.

It’s not about the bill—it’s about the mindset. If every little thing becomes a transaction, you’re not in a partnership. You’re in a trap.

Don’t Marry a “Social Media Wife”

If you end up with someone who only cares about appearances—Instagram lifestyle, aesthetics, and soft life—but adds no real value to your life, you’ll burn out quickly. Worse, you might die young from stress. Look well. Ask yourself: is she really your partner, or just someone who wants to enjoy the ride without contributing?

Poor or Rich—Marry Smart

Let me be blunt here:  

- If you’re a poor man, marry a rich woman. It’s not a joke.  

- If you’re an average man, marry a rich woman if you can.  

- If you’re a rich man, still marry a rich woman.  

Having money on both sides brings balance. It’s not just about luxury—it’s about peace, options, and resilience. Emergencies will come. Bills won’t wait. A financially stable woman won’t break down when life tests you. She’ll adjust and help move the family forward.

But What About Poor Women? 

Now someone might ask, “If men only marry rich women, who will marry the poor ones?”

Let’s turn the question around: who’s marrying poor men? Aren’t they the same men being told not to marry until they can stand on their feet?

Dear women, if you’re broke and relying on marriage to save you from poverty, you’re making a huge mistake. You went to school like the men. You had access to the same opportunities. Why depend on marriage for upliftment?

Build yourself. Develop your skills. Create value. No one owes you a better life—not even your future husband.

Final Words

Marriage is not for decoration. It’s not a retirement plan or a romantic fairytale. It’s real life, with real bills, real emergencies, and real pressure. So before you say “I do,” make sure you’re ready. Make sure your partner is ready too.

Choose love, yes—but choose wisely. Because the wrong marriage can ruin your peace, drain your energy, and break your spirit. But the right one? It will multiply everything good in your life.